आज़ादी या भीख 

कुछ दिनों पहले सोशल मीडिया पर सुनने में आया कि 1947 में हमें आज़ादी नहीं भीख मिली थी और असली आज़ादी हमें 2014 में मिली, हो सकता है कुछ लोग इस बात से सहमत भी हो पर ये जो आप को देश की आज़ादी का अपमान करने का अधिकार मिला है न ये भी उसी भीख का परिणाम है ।

देश की आज़ादी का अपमान करने का साहस या फिर कहे दुस्साहस करने का हम सोच भी कैसे सकते हैं ?

1857  की क्रांति से 1947 तक या कहे उसके बाद भी जाने कितने स्वतंत्रता सेनानियों की शहादत के बदले देश को आज़ादी मिली है और देश को चाहिए कि स्वतंत्रता संग्राम के हर सेनानी का सम्मान किया जाये,उनके शहादत दिवस को और उनकी शहादतों को आवश्यक पाठ्यक्रम के रूप में पढ़ाया जाये ,जिससे युवाओं को और देश की भावी पीढ़ी को देश कि आज़ादी का और आज़ादी के लिए दिए गए बलिदानोंका महत्व समझ में आये और वो समझ सके कि हमारी आज़ादी कोई भीख नहीं बल्कि देश के वीरों के बलिदान से ,उनके लहू से तिलक लगा कर आयी है और आज हम उन सभी का अपमान कर रहे हैं ।

देश धर्म में तो बंट ही गया है अब स्वतंत्रता सेनानियों का भी बंटवारा होने लगा है ।

हर राजनीतिक दल ने अपने अपने हिसाब से हमारे आज़ादी के नायकों को बाँट रखा है और साबित करने में तुले है कि उन्हीं की  वजह से आज़ादी आयी है ,पर आज़ादी सिर्फ मुट्ठी भर लोगो से नहीं आयी ,आज़ादी में देश के हर कोने से लोगो का योगदान और बलिदान दोनों ही अतुलनीय है ।

23 मार्च को जब हम भगत सिंह को याद करते हैं तब हम जतींद्र नाथ का बलिदान दिवस क्यों नहीं मानते जिन्होंने जेल में भूख हड़ताल से अपनी जान दे दी थी , हम क्यों सूर्यसेन को याद नहीं करते ,क्यों हम कभी सचिन सान्याल ,रास बिहारी बोस इन सबको याद नहीं करते और भी जाने कितने ही ऐसे नाम है जिन्हें देश की जनता जानती ही नहीं है ,और जानती है तो बस गाँधी ,नेहरू ,सुभाष चंद्र बोस और सावरकर और इन्हें अपने हिसाब से बाँट कर आज़ादी की अभिव्यक्ति का लुत्फ़ उठाते है ।

हम कितनी महिला स्वतंत्रता सेनानियों को जानते है ?

सिर्फ सरोजिनी नायडू या एनी बेसेंट पर बहुत सी औरतों ने आज़ादी की इस लड़ाई में भाग लिया था जैसे प्रीती लता वादेदार ,कल्पना दत्ता और भी बहुत सारे नाम हैं जो आजतक किताबों में भी गुमनाम हैं  ।

देश कैसे भूल सकता है जलियांवाला बाग को और उधम सिंह को, कैसे भूल सकते हैं की 17  नवंबर 1928  को लाला लाजपत राय साइमन कमीशन के विरोध में हुए लाठी चार्ज में शहीद हुए  ?

पर देश की तस्वीर अब बदलने लगी है क्योंकि देश के इतिहास के साथ छेड़छाड़ ही हो रही है ,कहीं नाम बदले जा रहे हैं तो कहीं आज़ादी के साक्ष्यों को मनोरंजक पार्क के रूप में तब्दील किया जा रहा है।

देश के इतिहास को बदलने से हमारी आने वाली पीढ़ी अपने देश का इतिहास कैसे जान पायेगी और कैसे वो जलियांवाला के दर्द को महसूस कर पायेगी ?

इतिहास को बदल कर आप इतिहास बदल नहीं सकते पर हाँ आप लोगो कि भावनाओं को आहत ज़रूर कर रहे हैं और देश की आज़ादी का अपमान भी ,अगर देश को गौरवशाली इतिहास देना है तो नया इतिहास रचिये न कि देश के अतीत से छेड़छाड़ कीजिये और सबसे अहम बात देश की आज़ादी और आज़ादी दिलाने वालो का सम्मान कीजिये ।

Happy Navaratri

Many many congratulations to all as the Navratri began today, many shades are scattered in the atmosphere that you can find them within your family, friends, or surroundings.

Everything started to turn very auspicious and we started fasting to ward off the evils inside us and this is really very good practice.

So who is Goddess Durga and why do we celebrate Navratri??

No, no, no please don't get bothered because I'm not revising it for you again because we people are already aware of it, but yeah I would like to take you on the journey of our religious beliefs, how do they get started?

we people merely know that in the Vedic period there were only those God exist who derived the natural forces like "Surya"- the God of Sun, Varuna, Usha, and so on..so who is God, God is a power, our belief, our savior from evils or mishappenings and as the time moved on God took many shapes and stories associated to them ..

so I just want to let you know that Goddess Durga is power resides inside every woman, the first thing I would like to say is that please respect the woman because you haven't seen the goddess but you are living with many women sharing your life with them, from your mother to your daughter all are the different shades of goddess Durga and the women at your workplace or any stranger all are carrying a goddess Durga in it.

we Indians always started posting things like feticide, rapes or dowery killing existed as a curse in our country so why are we celebrating Navratri so to all please one thing is to note down here is in many of the above cases excluding rapes, there is a woman who induces all these events to occur only name of relation would get changed so until a woman started to take stand for other woman or would not try to understand nothing will going to change, its women who can change the society and carve a new society for upcoming generations by supporting each other.

here carving a new society of our new generations doesn't mean to carve a vulgar one as you can see it on social media these days and episode named sukhprapti, actually, I fell short on words to write about it, they are like talking about sex, alcohol and double meaning things on the name of feminism, is this we going to pass our society through social media ?is feminism all about alcohol drugs and sex ? who told you this shit?

If a boy would talk about these things he portrayed a bad image of him in our mind but when a girl talks about it we hide it or wrap it beneath the label of feminism, excuse me, do you think it's feminism?

No, it's not, it's something that must get the same reaction whether it be for a boy or a girl so please stop changing the definition of feminism.

feminism is goddess Durga who is a symbol of love to her husband and to her kids when she drapes a red saree, she brings peace to you, she is a daughter and a wife who sacrificed her life for her husband's respect and she is shakti when its come to her dignity, she is the creator if you are good to her but when it's about her dignity she can destroy the whole world, she is the shakti, she complemented the man and she is the kali and she is all about true feminism .

happy navratri to all ,keep maa durga alive in your soul .

online classes, what do you say ?

Classes, classes, and online classes, right?

As we all know, we all are going through a really very tough time, but still, schools are providing us their services through online mediums and they keep putting in their efforts to educate our kids and we all owe a big thanks to them.

Being the mother of a student sometimes I have some queries, some suggestions not only for a particular group but for all whether it be the teachers or the parents of the students and sometimes maybe the students but I couldn't get the right medium to express what is going on in my mind so I just found that, yes I can do it through blogging. 

Many things I observe during the online class session of my kid, so I want to share some of them,

-Not all children are identical, some are very sharp, some are average and some are below average, they all are different but believe me as a mother I always try to give my all to my kid and our teachers do so but during the online class dear parents please maintain the decorum of the class, like if your kid knows everything, then please wait for your turn rather than make your kid shout the answer, seriously this is not the way and we are here to get our kid educated not to shop for the fishes and please let the teachers do their job.

-Online class doesn't mean to tell your kid everything they don't even know, dear parents please let them learn by themselves, let them accept the things that they don't know, and believe me this is not shameful that if your kid doesn't know something or weak at some point, let them handle their small success and little failures believe me for that no one going to judge them but yes this habit of pretending to know everything lead them to lies and dishonesty.

If you make them learn things on their own, they would feel bad if they would not be able to give the right answers and next time they would put more effort to do their best, by doing this your child would grow along with the virtue of truth, honesty and as well as hard work.

Dear teacher please never support or applause those kids who are doing their best with the help of their parents because this would be going to have a negative impact on the little minds who are doing it on their own, cause it takes a lot of hard work to do so, let them grow on their own, and dear parents try to make your kids so efficient so they could deliver their best before the teachers and their fellow students rather than letting them know everything during the class, better to try this after the class.

One thing I desperately want that there should be a guideline for the parents and the students on how to behave during online class, interruption of parents during the online class is so unbearable, please don't make any interruption because others are waiting for their turn too, you can satisfy your queries after the class or when the teacher asks you to do so.

dear teachers, as a mother of a student I want to let you know that in your class there are many students, some are very intelligent and expressive too, some are those who know everything but can't respond too fast and some are average but all are special but I noticed different behavior of students like some possesses dominating attributes affecting their fellow students and some are too slow to catch their speed and some are very effective that they know how to behave in class, so please let every student know their limitations during the online class so they all could learn to develop the behavior that would be going to lead them to be a better person because education is not only about studies but as well as personality development too.

and to the schools, please provide a fine guideline on how to behave during online classes.

Thank you all the lovely teachers for your endless efforts.

 

To The best version of you

We all have been passed through many ups and downs, somewhere in our life. The hard times when we were trying to rise out of it and actually we made it possible with rigorous efforts and actions, and have you ever fallen into the same condition after that ??

 

If no then you might have learned from it else you need to analyze the causes which have resulted in the former situation.

 

On your way to advancement, just pursue  these   in your daily routines to reach the better you

 

Diary writing: It is the best thing that you can do to stimulate the process of meeting the best in you, all you have to do is to write down all your heart out on it and then just go throughout to your work in your diary and analyze your moves and its outcomes, so you can fix it up for upcoming future and never repeat the same mistakes.

 

Believe me after sharing your all-day experience with your diary, you would feel so light and peaceful.

 

Reading: To read something good is tantamount to feed your brain a nutritious diet everyday and fixing up the deadlocks that occur in your mind and you have surely read this somewhere that " a book is the best friend to us", so choose a good book and hold on to it and apply the theories it consists in it to your life and you are a step ahead in the encounter with the better you.

 

You can select any book of your choice, it might be  "The secrets ", "power of your subconscious mind " or any other good book of your choice, so just go through it and you would find solutions to your queries about life.

 

Goal: Fix a goal in your life, I have read it in a book that a person with no goal is like wandering on a road without destination, though you are walking on a road you do not have an idea about where would you reach in future, and if you set a goal in your life, then even unaware of the path you would find your way to the destination and with every step toward your goal, you would feel enthusiastic and energetic and develop a positive attitude toward life.

 

Meditation: It leads you to mental peace, all you have to do is just sit and close your eyes and imagine a box in your mind, and let your mind blow by the reckless thoughts and just lock down all of them into that box and just move ahead with the regular meditation practice.

 

Walk: Either a morning walk or an evening one but it must be included to your daily routine, this is the time when you feel the nature, that pampering breeze, the infinite color blue, singing birds and all the love from nature sending to us, just feel it and your heart will surely embrace all of it.

 

So after all these, one should work on his/her experience, evaluate every point, every single mistake you have made in past and learn a lesson from it and never forget to apply it in your life and here I want to clarify, do not get stuck to your past just use it for analyzing your missteps and just move towards a better version of you and keep excavating the thoughts that lead to the best in you.

 

Thanks for reading.

 

 

Motherhood :journey of a mother (part 2)

As your baby stepped into your life,with his/her twinkling eyes and  smiling lips you merely remembered the phase you have gone through earlier,His/Her cries sound  most melodious at that moment,I think the best moment in life of every woman.
You started to put efforts to connect with your little one and the first step to this was feeding your baby and for the first time you felt  emotionally and physically connected to him/her after coming out of your womb.
Here started a new struggle ,conciliation between the sleep of baby and mother and of course everything went according to the comfort of your little one,you spent not only  sleepless nights but also sleepy days,your gaining weight ,every organ of your body felt like hanging inside your stomach and of course how could you forget the lactation which made you feel so heavy that you even couldn't sleep properly and after all these here you thrown yourself to deal with undiscovered challenges,which were to carry all the task of your little one.
Tell me ,How you felt when you first time gave your baby a bath after massage?
Those tender limbs of your little one felt so fragile at that time and in your mind the phrase was striking continuously was,"Handle with care",wasn't it?
How tough the former task was though you learned it and after some time you gained efficiency in it and became the best mother to your child despite your healing stitches which resisted you to sit properly and so painful they were until  healed completely and how could you forget that feeling when those stitches got wet with the urine passed by your little one.
The stinky diapers ,wet bed sheets and you too sometime felt his/her urine on you actually I should use many instead of some but this  fragrance was better  than of any perfume you are going wear in your lifetime.
I can compare all the new mothers to our mother earth,she is just like her,rotating at her own place to deal with her own constraints ,after all these challenges her life is revolving around her child and she forget herself to get adjusted in  this scenario.
After all these challenges she felt like an awardee when her child uttered the  first word, or started crawling or  walking ,her trophies were those little hands who held her while trying to stand on his/her little feet,her medals were the two little arms ,embraced her in between them.
She captured and locked , the very first crawling,first walk and first word he/she spoke in her heart forever.

Whether you were a good cook or not but you tried to cook the best dish with all your heart ,for your child though made her/him eating that dish was another super constraint,and in this roller coaster ride ,you faced another challenge when unfortunately your child fell sick and you were never prepare for this at first but you also dealt with it amazingly and the vaccinations ,in every vaccination you cried more than your baby did,you learned to deal with all above challenges except one especially this is a big challenge for me till now that how to make your baby eat everything,like dal ,roti ,sabji ,chawal to get him/her  the full nutrition value?
Now when your child complete first year ,the challenges began to lessen down but here came another one,The teeth started growing and those two little teeth were like pomegranate seeds in his/her mouth which made him/her more cute but this time your child felt fever and chills followed with continuous bowls .
As year passed, the challenges changed their way of representation to us,Now your little one started to throw new challenges at you every day and you still thinking the new scene he/she going to create and your journey continues...
Thanks for reading

Best wishes for all mum for their lovely journey.
This one is dedicated to my little angel Minku ,Love you darling.

Motherhood :journey of a mother (part 1)

It is a journey of a mother that starts from two pink lines to a never ending destination because whether you want it or not ,your heart refuse to stop it.
That unforgettable morning which started with a positive result ,whispering into your heart directly, "yes, you are pregnant",that feeling when you heard her first heartbeat  through sonography ,do not lie to yourself,weren't your heart rate racing  much more faster than the life taking shape inside your womb? Your child ,which is of a few mm became whole world to you around which your thoughts ,action everything  started to revolve.
The baby sites,google ,on which you used to see her growth chart  every week and read them more than once in a week,numerous emotions which were unrevealed till now ,suddenly started to jump over you .
You adjusted your food ,your sleeping pattern ,your every next  move associated with her comfort,you may remember the weird craving for foods, yes how can I forget it ? the gulab jamuns ,the golgappas and kulfis too but it may differ person to person as the mentioned former were of mine.
Size changes from small to XL,for the first time you started to love your increasing weight and clothes which could not hold you any more,you love all of it and yes the indigestion,  the discomfort,
the mood swings because you knew that you were carrying the world's most beautiful creation that is your baby ,the one who is going to love you unconditionally in every situation.
Her first kick ,her hiccups and movement in  your womb,her response to a song or our voices,simply best feelings in lifetime.
Those stretch marks  ,that dividing line in your belly looked so beautiful that you were always ready to took

a glance at it.

Finally after long  9 months the most awaited moment knocked at your door either in form of labor pain or breaking  your water and the hospital seemed to be so panic at that time because feeling of her arrival and the nervousness of giving birth mixed together and after immense labor pain that broke you into tears and left your backbone crumbled and stitches in your vagina or abdomen ,here she/he incarnated into the real world out of her mum's womb and first time you held her/him in your arms ,actually this time I have to say to my readers that I can't explain that feeling ,even I have no words to express except an overwhelmed heart with some tears which want to come out from my eyes.
That was a feeling of completion,That was divine  ,I never felt like that before and so here our baby arrived and her cry ,even in my time I was in so pain so that I couldn't hear her very first cry,so finally after nine month she/he entered to your world to fill it with her/his love,smile and ladies you got a chance to see a different side of your husband as a father,who was/is ready to do anything for his little one and you fallen again in love with the father of your baby.
This one is dedicated to all mothers and Fathers too because they witnessed the whole journey .
Now,time to say good bye, will catch you in the next part of motherhood .
Thanks for reading .

A walk with yourself in quarantine

Winning sounds of birds,their endless efforts to measure the sky,the clear blue sky full of warmth all around ,warmth of sun,warmth of peace which makes you enlightened,the color blue which is actually reflection of all positive vibes passing down from the Sun,travelling around you,you just need to feel this with your heart and mind.

Just spread your arms to embrace all the blessings gifted by nature to you,to all of us,take a deep breath and inhale all the positive energy you can feel around you and lock it down in your system during the lock down and so on for the life time.

Accelerate your day with a lovely morning walk on your terrace and feel the nature around you in these quarantine days.

Let your body feel the kisses of flowing breeze,close your eyes and face towards the sun and put your fingers over your eyes and rub your eyelids slightly with your fingers to explore colors inside you,actually if you are a painter then you can explore numerous colors by doing this activity,believe me i have already tried it,just do it and get ready to enter the world of colors and find time to relive your imagination on a piece of paper with more colors you have explore in the morning.

Start these quarantine days with a positive walk and plan the things you love to do but you have ignored them because of your other responsibilities.

Just list down your interest and if you do not aware about your interest then simply make a list of things which makes you happy and get ready to be the happiest soul in yourself.

If you are slave to your tongue then find some recipes or create your own new recipes that result in tingling sensation on your tongue and and satisfy your hunger but do not let your tummy to look outside your body so for this you have to walk for some time after this so that your body can convert this delicious food to energy(glucose) rather than accumulating fat.

Just feel the shivering of water droplets or dew on the petals ,their zeal to retain on the surface whether curvy or straight though they know that the insolation (heat from sun which reaches to the earth surface) will force them to disappear ,despite all,they keep trying ,in many aspects nature can guide us to come out of many difficult situation.

All I want to let you know that this quarantine time is a great opportunity in our life to explore our self,as I found my interest that is to shape my thoughts with simple stroke of my imagination with a cup of tea with myself.

You can catch the beautiful view of lofty mountains kissing the sky with all their love,or a place where land and sky meet to stay together forever though they are aware of their fate but still they walk together ,stay together and stand together for each other showing their affection to each other .

When the sky shower it loves on it ,it just disseminate it's fragrance all around and return it's love in blossoming flowers though they are segregated from each other but still amalgamated with each other.

Stay safe ,stay at home, happy quarantine.

why always women need to get empower

Since I finished my education and entered to the world full with very harsh realities,I always heard about women empowerment.

In the very beginning I didn't know about women empowerment but as time passes and I started working and I realize that women should get empowered and I thought we can do this by educating women and I was quiet sure that educating women is tantamount to women empowerment but soon I realized that I was so wrong and i got to know the real meaning of empowerment,that is ,a woman is empowered when she feels confident,when she reflect her true personalty with confidence not to other but to herself,when she is satisfied with what she really is and accept herself as she is with all her goods and bad.

The most important thing I got to realized that no other person can empower us until we wants to do this to ourselves and ladies we are already empowered with our ability to produce life ,to manage a family,and with all these things we have the ability to manage our career though we have a load of responsibilities but we carry everything beautifully,but in my view empowerment is about happiness,about freedom to do what we want to,freedom from society stereotypes and breaking all the stupid trends we were following till now .

In my view when women started to cooperate with other women than women would not need anybody else as we can realize that there are big enemy of women at home who are also women and we are the maker of our next generation so why not to create a healthy generation where men are truly gentle and women are treated as human not as a multitasking machines and sex objects.

All I want to say that we are human as you are so please we do not need empowerment we just need to be treated like you all get treated as human beings.

Hey pretty ladies ,I just want to tell you that we do not need any empowerment, we only need respect, love ,a little pinch of some proud and some pamper ,and most important thing is that we do not need or require these things from outer world or any peripheral boosting system ,all we require is from our inner soul.

Why to wait for anyone ,who would come and love us, respect us, pamper us or spend time with us, whether husband or friends or family or any other people, why we are so dependable to other, why we cant be our own companion? Why?

Just open the doors to your heart, do not wait for anybody to pamper you, just be your soulmate.

Find time to pamper you in a way you like to, it might be a beauty session for some or traveling with the words appear in your favorite book to which you could not catch up due to your overloaded responsibilities, refresh through exploring new places, cooking your choice of food ,hitting to gym ,watching TV or setting your Goals in life and moving toward your goal because each little step toward your goal results in peace and satisfaction in your life.

Set yourself the first priority in your life, find time to cherish your interest or sharp your skills, never stop just move from your place to a better you, do not ignore yourself because if you ignore yourself than no one will care for you, as someone said very true and also my favorite lines "Smile and the world smiles with you, cry and you will cry alone", then just smile but more important than a smile should be a pure smile which reflects your satisfaction and your mental peace.

Never put yourself on a deadlock condition ,never put blame on yourself for being anything wrong because you are human too and above all ,please treat yourself as a simple human being who feels pain ,who can have emotion ,who can get tired easily, who can feel sleepy too, who can have her choices too, be the creator of your own life ,live your life as you want too, do not follow the trends ,follow your own trends and never judge yourself according to other's view, no one can judge you ,no one have the authority or any right to judge us ,just be yourself, do what you want to, eat what you love, live your life at your own terms, be the controller of your life ,do not anyone let to control you ,Be your own BOSS and rule your life.

Just live it to its fullest because we get life only once so don't waste it and just live.

The most important thing I want to say that ,actually it is a request to all ladies, Please respect other ladies and cooperate them ,do not criticize them just stand with them in their ups and downs if you get a chance to, Stand together with each other.

Thanks for reading .

yes we are the winner.